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| I am lost and confused |
| I have been married for 22 years. My husband is in the miliary and we have just come back to the mainland from spending 3 years in Hawaii. My daughter and I left first to find a house and put her in school. He came a month later. Well I find out that he was having an affair with a woman (also in the military) when we left. I asked him if he was going to stop what he was doing and he said that he didn't know. I told him I wanted a divorce. Of course, he talked me out of it and we bought our house. Now I find out that the woman is pregnant by him. So, I ask again for a divoce. This time he is okay with it but there is one problem, I don't have a job yet, so he has to stick around because he can't afford to move out and pay for his place and the house also. He speaks to this woman everyday, all day and acts as if he has done nothing wrong, while me on the the other hand is heartbroken, I cry all the time. I am a very independent woman who was also in the military for 14 years and I helped him get back in the military and it seems that he just doesn't have a need for me anymore. He told me that he wanted to leave (after I practically begged him to stay) because he just wanted to do what he wanted to do when he wanted to do it. So, here I am stuck, with a man that I totally dispise one day and cry my heart out for him to next and he just comes and goes like life is all great. Our daughter doesn't knnow yet, but she is 13 and not stupid. She knows that Daddy sleeps in the other bedroom now and wants to know whats going on. I just want him gone so that I can get on with my life. I just want the hurt to stop and seeing him everyday is not helping. I don't see how people do this. I know I am going to come apart because if I hurt this bad right now, how in the hell am I going to survive when he leaves. Please be here when he does leave. What am I going to do? |
| By : Kay : Female |
| Date/time : 06/02/10 12:01:06 |
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Rachel 2009 :) |
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I am not sure about this but I thought adultery was considered one of the unpardonable sins in the military. It sounds pretty "unbecoming" to me. Is he an officer? If he is an officer; then he is an unbecoming officer. I don't think it would be a good idea to be an unbecoming military officer. When Uncle Sam finds out what your spouse's extra curricular activities have entailed; watch out. He had better invest in an extra warm and fuzzy parka, because if he is lucky they will move his patoot somewhere toward the North and to an icy igloo--at that. He will long for his balmy Hawaiian beaches to frolic upon. He will be shivering his patoot off and longing to live like the Grinch's hound "Max".------OR----- The military could decide to court martial him or kick him out with a dishonorable discharge. Who knows what kind of trouble is in store for him. I am sure the military has a special manual to refer to. They know exactly how to take good care of a person like that. Just my thoughts. |
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07/02/10 03:48:19 |
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Kiaone |
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Don't let this break you. You will survive and thrive. File for divorce and kick him out of the house. Don't waste another minute crying over him. Make sure you get alimony and that he pays for child support on your 13 yr old until she in college. In fact, structure your divorce decree so that he is required to pay for college expenses of your 13 yr old. |
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10/02/10 21:36:11 |
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Kim |
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Let's get down to the problem here!!!First thing u stop being into u and start focusing on a man which was your husband and u lost confident in your marriage.We women often forget that GOD and our Kids are first:)U allowed him to get to comfortable in the marriage as if he knows u better than u.He knew he had your mind,body and soul and u would be there so they began to search for something else to play with!But it's ok you can reverse this cycle,by getting back into self let him go!!!If you read your statement you allowed him once again to trick your mind into staying married when deep down the happiness was over!I want you to start reading CHRISTAIN CARTER or RORI RAYE go to there WEBSITE it helped me alot and know will help you!!Good Luck and take him to the DRY CLEANER'S get that money for you and your child! |
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25/02/10 19:25:40 |
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