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| What's up with men of my generation? |
| It seems the men I have met my age lately (35 to 45) are nothing like the men my father was raised to be. Most are living for today, drinkers, drug addicts, no ambition, not wanting anything more out of life than getting by day to day. Not ever planning for the future. They certainly don't treat women like my dad was raised. Are there any chivalress men out there anymore? And the new generations, ugh. Most men of my generation aren't spiritual, or have any morals. I feel like I have set up roots in Loserville, USA. I separated from my husband because he'd rather pop a pill than take care of me or his family. Lied about everything. Nothing he promised or said was real. Now I am bitter. I am hoping that I can stop being bitter, but when all I am faced with is a town of losers just like him. Is it like this everywhere? I miss having someone put their arms around me just to make me feel secure. Someone do things for me without a motive or wanting to gain from it. This sucks to be decieved and lied to. I gave him everything. I mean dinner brought to him in front of the TV. Washing him after a hard day of work, keeping his house clean and never asking him to help. Never nagging him that my needs aren't being met. Never asking where his paycheck went. Never asking him for money, buying him anything he wanted including a 40 cal. Barretta, just because. And he threw it away? I know I am not the most beautiful person. I am not unattractive, I am independant, And often complained how his son's mother took advantage of him for childsupport. I hate women who expect a man to take care of them financially. I thought I was doing everything right. I just don't get it. Now I am heart broken, lost what I thought was my soul mate, alone and bitter. I hope there is hope for me and I will get over him and move on to a better place in life. I guess this isn't a question. I really needed to vent. I am sooooooooooo hurt.
I want so much to get over him, stop wondering what he is doing?,or Does he even care how I am? I know he doesn't. I feel for anyone who is or has been going through what I am. |
| By : Fed up : Female |
| Date/time : 17/01/10 02:32:07 |
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I think men should help with the house work, but I still believe women carry most of the responsibility for that plus raising the children. I think it is hard to raise men to do these things as women have done it so long they just continue like it was many years ago. I know I had very little help and what he did he wanted to be bragged on. What about us who work all day and have to do so much more besides watch television and relax because his job is harder.
My ex didn't care at all and I realize that it was only a roll he played to get what he thought he wanted. His job was done when I had the kids as he paid very little attention to one of the children. Discipline he knew nothing about and didn't want to learn.
I really thought when you got married the female wasn't supposed to take care of the male 100 percent and they were supposed to talk about finances plus have a joint bank account. I certainly did have a joint bank account and know he wasn't popping pills, but doing some drinking. I certainly wouldn't have tolerated him spending his pay check foolishly as that is a no no although I overlooked his controling nature until years down the road.
If I can't find a kinder more affectionate male who can communicate I will be single for the rest of my life. |
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18/01/10 01:28:31 |
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Rachel 2009 :) |
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I think decent, single, adult, conservative and hard-working men are still out there---but they are extremely hard to meet. They have a very short shelf-life. It takes the right social connections to meet one of them. It is all about "Who You Know". Many people are looking for nice, available men to introduce their decent, adult, female relatives to. Wouldn't you want the very best for your relatives too? Some adult singles are still being properly introduced within their own social circles. I also think it would be best to have common values and interests. I think it takes two adult people of the opposite sex, who are INTERESTING and INTERESTED in each other---all at the same time. By the way; do you remember the matchmaker in the movie "Fiddler On The Roof"? Perhaps we need more conservative and helpful matchmakers within our communities. Matchmakers who do not make a nuisance of themselves nor create an embarrassment for those around them. Oh well. Where I am located there isn't anything good to choose from. NO PICKENS! At this point, it may require a relocation. Hey folks, what time does the next stagecoach leave? |
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18/01/10 20:27:04 |
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I was tempted to issue a caution about lumping all us guys together... but I'm well aware that for every decent guy, there are a dozen cavemen to wade through.
Fair, decent, domesticated, men exist. I look at my relationships as a true partnership, and I'm happy to iron, do laundry, clean up after the meal, and even make the mad dash to the store for tampons. It's all for the common good right? Your partner is supposed to be your best friend too right?
We're out there... just don't settle for less. |
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19/01/10 17:33:04 |
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Keep taking incredibly good care of yourself. See how magnificent you really are and the magnificent men will see that, and flock to you.
Give yourself what you want from another. Love, honor, pampering, a gentle touch, etc. You can give all these to yourself.
It could be some beliefs that you are holding - 'that all men of x age are x' Start teaching yourself some new beliefs. There are wondrous and not-so-wondrous men of all ages, but YOU now attract the wondrous ones.
:-D |
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20/01/10 13:02:29 |
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I was a descent guy once but then I got done wrong one too many times by women that are all the same selfish, princes expecting me to shoulder all her issues and be understanding no matter how evil she is, women that can't accept my short comings as I am expected to accept hers.
Well joint the club of hating the opposite sex but not being gay. It really sucks and I also hope that there is a woman out there for me, I for one am choosing not too even look for a while and just focus on making myself happy doing whatever I like and the next woman that I end up with will get that a-hole you described but unless she is deserving of better.
God help us all. |
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22/01/10 00:43:02 |
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cant blame it all on men.a lot of women on drugs and drunks.cant blame that on all women. either |
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14/03/10 11:30:58 |
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