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| It's over after 32 years Married 25 |
| I loved this man for 32 years and on New Years Eve 2008 I saw the phone calls they had been making to each other for 5 months and the kicker is our 25th Anniversary was in the month before I found out. I confronted him about the
calls and he had no choice but to admitt that he was having an affair. I didn't
file for Divorce until April 2009. The divorce was final on his Mothers birthday July 27th 2009. He moved out in Sept 2009 and his fist date believe it or not was with the same person in October 2009 talking about not wasting time while all along assuring me it wasn't like that. I am angry at myself because I should have kicked him to the curb on 12/31/08 my emotions are all
over the place. I live by myself now my kids are grown and live in different states. My daughter was here for his nieces wedding the day after Thanksgiving 2009 and since she is between jobs she was able to stay until Jan 4 2010
Thank God
Sincerely Lossed |
| By : Clara Gary : Female |
| Date/time : 07/01/10 11:53:06 |
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mnail |
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Clara, you're in for a crappy ride with all the contradictions, those given by another and those we gave ourselves via thought, hope and all that is involved.
It's a working progress that you'll find yourself in, at times without enough energy to work even the easiest of problems.
With the tons of mental energy you'll be burning as you come to a place of calming thought, try and make sure you have simple meals handi (I don't like microwaved food, but in a pinch cheerios will do, it's one of the crappiest places you can find yourself.
Get rest when you can - benadryl and the t.v. on low but loud enough to divert thought during sleep helped me allot.
This is when father time is a pure pain in the ass but nothing really but time and allowing it to pass works out (or we give up thinking of it), some thing have zero solutions, we often work to resolve things we cannot understand - why someone would do such to another person, taken advantage of then etc..
I'm looking very logically at it, whereas you're in the emotionally charged portion of it - both have their benefits - focus more so on where you lost yourself (very difficult at this time) things such as adding a bounce sheet (the fragrance you find the nicest) subtle changes that mean allot as you regain your own individual identity back.
It is hard very hard, but not difficult, post, write and get it out one way or the other and it'll come to pass, not all answers will come but the most important will. |
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10/01/10 02:02:55 |
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By all means get plenty of rest and take up hobbies that you didn't have time for.
Remember, once a cheater always one. |
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