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| Lonely and Confused for Holidays |
| I have been living seperately from my husband for a year and a half. 2 wks after he left he found a girlfriend and played mind games with me back and forth with her. He then changed his mind and decided he wanted to work it out with me but nothing changed. He never wanted to do anything with me or the kids. He said I lived in a fairytale and guys are not like the movies they make. I never gave him my all because of the distrust all these years and feel I should have yet felt he should have too. 2 months ago I found him talking to another woman. Then he played his games again but back and forth between me and her. If only she knew. I have dealt with this pig for 12 years. Now he still continues to try to get me to do phone sex when he is with her. My main complaint of the marriage was I wanted more than sex. Or at least feel I was worth more. Now he has spent the holidays with his girlfriend and even put her name on our daughters presents. Its tearing me apart. How do I get this pain to go away. I know he is wrong for me but for some dumb reason I love him. I don't want to be with him after all this but how do I move on? It's killing me inside to picture him with her. What will take this pain away and when will I stop feeling so lonely and confused? Having no family or friends to support makes it worse. I have two little girls whom I cant talk to. I help I get help somehow. |
| By : Tinkerbell0824 : Female |
| Date/time : 27/12/09 12:44:33 |
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You definitely need to break free of him as he is a chauvist. I know it is hard but this is not a healthy relationship and it is doing alot of damage to you emotionally. I believe you want a relationship and I understand that as we all do, but one like that is not the answer as he is very immature. You need to talk to a minister in your community who will give free counseling without him to get you through some rough spots or if you have insurance that will pay for a Christian Counselor that would work also.
I would stay as busy as a bee with church activities, work, hobbies and things that interest you. Don't let him steal any of your time by thinking about him or with what he is doing as he isn't worth any of your time as you deserve alot better than him. He definitely has a character flaw if he is married and dating other women.
I know you aren't ready for this, but you need to see an attorney and get yourself some child support as I bet he isn't paying a dime while he is acting like a teenager.
Take care of yourself rest, eat well, and think happy thoughts. Trust the Bible for answers. |
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27/12/09 02:08:28 |
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Your husband sounds very immature and is doing all of these things to you because you are allowing him to do this. You must be the adult in this relationship and take care of you and your children. This means that while you may still have feelings for him that unless he behaves in an adult manner and deal with this situation as a mature adult there should be no contact with him unless it is concerning the children. You also need to seek counseling or find a divorce support group to help you through this bad time. Your children need you to be strong for all of your survival and you need to stop allowing him to play his hurtful games with you. I wish you well. |
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30/12/09 15:29:25 |
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Albert |
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Java, as I see it this man is not worth your love, time and health, you deserve much better and you know it. Get a lawyer and make him pay child support at once, make your lawyer get the best diverce settlement for you, with this initial step you will control the situation and start controlling your life, a much better life for you and your Kids. You already know he is playing with you so you have to put an end to the game. This site can help you very much after that. I wish you well. If need a Blanket freind my nmber is 787-422-9481. |
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