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| I've never NOT been in a relationship. |
| I just ended my 20 year marriage (and ended a short relationship after that). I have decided to take six months off the dating train and am facing life for the first time alone...and without a man. For some reason it's scaring the crap out of me. How do I adjust to this new state of my life?
I keep busy with work, friends, school, kids, housework etc. so that's not a problem. But it will feel weird not having a man, not being in some form of relationship with the opposite sex. I met my X when I was barely 18 years old, I'm 43 now.
Am I making too big a deal out of this? Any pointers for how to cope with this? |
| By : Tracy : Female |
| Date/time : 18/11/09 04:25:27 |
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Leah |
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My story is similar to yours I have always been in a relationship since I was 18yrs old, married 19 years divorced with 1 teenage child at home. I didn't date until after my divorce but started shortly after and ended the relationship a few months ago. I needed time to learn me again my likes, dislikes as they get convoluted in relationships at least for me it did.
I haven't dated in 8 mos and while initially I was a little lonely without a man I have adjusted and have learned to enjoy my own company, rediscovered my likes and dislikes. I feel stronger, independent, confident
with the knowledge I have gained about me. This I believe will help me make better choices which will enable me to have a better relationship the next time. Yes I do want to have a relationship but I needed to do some healing and get me together first.
Just take time to do things for you and look at this time in a positive manner that in the end will bring you knowledge about yourself that will change your life so that you will be ready for he good things that will be coming your way. Good luck to you.
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22/11/09 12:42:42 |
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LosTmyWaY |
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Im ending a 20 year relationship now as well...I so pissed about how I could have allowed myself all this time and effort just to watch it all fall down...I dont know how to even fall asleep right now...I feel like such a looser. |
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02/12/09 14:25:35 |
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LosTmyWaY |
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Cant even proof read my own words...ugg sorry about spelling. |
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02/12/09 14:27:37 |
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